Just the not average, not everyday chaos confusion, mayhem mixing and conformity corrosion.

I would be more forthcoming with my posts, but it is all plans within plans within plans, within plans, etc., etc., etc....

Hi Haggie,

In response...

"That's a bit prejudicial, don't you think? It seems to me that monogamy is not only every bit as valid a choice as polygamy,"

Yep, probably prejudicial. I think I can clarify, though. I think I meant "strangers who also happen to be monogamous." Not that that makes it any less prejudicial... Maybe it's just strangers who make me uncomfortable. Is that prejudiced? or just xenophobic.

"Actually, what I find puzzling is how you're post went from showing off tattoos to your apprehension around the monogamous. Perhaps I'm missing something. "

Yep, actually there's a little more to this story. Before I went to the party (chock full of people I barely knew but felt like it was important to connect to) Crocker & I had spent the day entertaining a new friend who is fortunately an excellent communicator. At some point during the day he shared that hanging around with a ployamorous couple made him a bit uncomfortable. He didn't know how to act, and was afraid that if he interacted with me, Crocker would feel jealousy. We ended up talking a lot about the mechanics of our relationship, and I started to feel like the lone voice for polyamory. What if I explained something wrong? Would I make him musunderstand more than I helped him understand? Later on I said to him that things were even, and that monogamous people made me uncomfortable. It felt clever, but you're right, it's not very open minded.

And I feel I should clarify more. Of course I don't feel uncomfortable around y'all. You guys have thought about your relationship and defined it by your own terms. I know, cuz' I was there! But many people haven't done that same exploration, and that's what makes me afraid I'll push some monogamous people's buttons. (still not as open minded as I'd like to be)

As usual in my interactions with you, sir, you've given me quite a hunk of mental fodder to chew upon. You know how much I like to examine & rid myself of as many "isms" as I can recognize. Now it seems I've found another... "relationshipism"

"just that you reconsider your apparent revulsion at the concept of monogamy. "
This would however be a misconception of my meaning. I'm not at all repulsed by monogamy. My only real problem with it is when I'm attracted to someone in a monogamous relationship. ;) The proverbial cookie in the jar so to speak. But I can handle that part. I have seen, watched, analyzed, appreciated and respected many successful (and even some of the unsuccessful) relationships that have been in center stage or on the sidelines of my life. One of my main mottos is "What works for you is RIGHT for you." You know I'm an ethical relativist. Any relationship that nurtures and satisfies both (or all 3 or 4 or 5) partners or at least works hard to attempt to is a beautiful thing in my book.

Anyways, let's talk more about this later. I think it's been a while since we discussed this, and we may both have a misconception or 2 to bust open.